How to Choose a Menstrual Cup Size When You’re a Virgin

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Menstrual cups are a sustainable, cost-effective, and comfortable alternative to traditional period products. However, if you’re a virgin or new to internal menstrual care, choosing the right cup size can feel intimidating. Rest assured—your body is unique, and virginity doesn’t have to limit your options. Let’s break down how to find the perfect fit with confidence and care.

Understanding Virginity and Menstrual Cups

First, let’s clarify a common concern: Using a menstrual cup does not affect virginity. Virginity is a social and cultural concept, not a medical one. The hymen (a thin membrane at the vaginal opening) varies widely among individuals—some may have a more flexible hymen, while others might have one that’s naturally stretched or perforated due to activities like sports, tampon use, or even daily movement. A menstrual cup, when inserted gently and correctly, is unlikely to cause significant changes to this tissue.

That said, comfort and ease of use are key. Here’s how to navigate sizing:

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Step 1: Focus on Anatomy, Not Virginity

Menstrual cup sizing typically depends on:

• Cervical height (how high your cervix sits during menstruation).
• Flow intensity (light, moderate, or heavy).
• Pelvic floor muscle strength (stronger muscles may require a firmer cup).
• Virginity isn’t a sizing factor—what matters is your body’s unique needs.

Step 2: Measure Your Cervical Height

Your cervix position determines the cup length you’ll need. Here’s how to check:

1. Wash your hands thoroughly.
2. Insert a clean finger into the vagina during your period.
3. Feel for your cervix (it may feel like a firm, dimpled texture).

• High cervix: Hard to reach; opt for a longer cup.
• Low cervix: Easily reachable; choose a shorter cup.

Most brands offer “small” or “teen” cups for shorter vaginal canals, which may suit first-time users.

Step 3: Consider Your Flow and Activity Level

• Light to moderate flow: A smaller cup (often labeled “S” or “Model 1”) holds 20–25ml.
• Heavy flow: A larger cup (“L” or “Model 2”) holds 30–35ml.

If you’re active or have strong pelvic muscles, a firmer cup resists collapsing. Softer cups may be gentler for beginners.

Step 4: Prioritize Comfort and Flexibility

• Material: Medical-grade silicone is body-safe and flexible.
• Rim design: A tapered rim eases insertion.
• Stem length: Trim the stem if it feels uncomfortable post-insertion.

Pro tip: Relaxation is key! Practice inserting/removing the cup when you’re not menstruating to reduce pressure.

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Addressing Common Concerns

• “Will it hurt?”: Discomfort is rare if the cup is positioned correctly. Use a water-based lubricant if needed.
• “What if it gets stuck?”: The cup sits below the cervix and can’t get “lost.” Squatting and bearing down gently helps removal.
• “I’m nervous about insertion”: Start with a smaller, softer cup and take your time. Many brands offer beginner-friendly kits with guides.

Final Thoughts: Empowerment Over Fear

Choosing a menstrual cup is about honoring your body’s needs—not your sexual history. Brands like Shefre offer discreet, judgment-free sizing quizzes and customer support to guide you. Remember, there’s no “right” way to menstruate. With patience and self-compassion, you’ll find a cup that feels like a natural extension of your self-care routine.

This post is part of our #MenstrualCup series. Follow us for more tips, reviews, and stories from real users!